PARENTS – TIME TOGETHER

To tell you straight away, we do not have a babysitter and do not block our calendar for date-nights. Nevertheless, we like to take some time of from parenting and spend some quality time just us as a couple. During this time, there is only us, us as a couple, not us as parents. We laugh about old times, talk about our dreams or just sit silently next to each other (very meditative). There are so many ways to enjoy time together. These are like pats for the relationship, our energy booster.

We agree that a loving relationship between parents is mandatory pillar for a harmonious family. And that’s exactly why we have to take some time off from our job as parents to cultivate and nurture the relationship to each other. Having children also teaches us to put our own need behind someone else’s. One more reason to think more often about our personal priorities. Because that’s what we quickly forget in the hamster wheel of the everyday stress between children, job and household.

How do we tell our children over, that today mom and dad just want to be together without them? Well, very open and honest. We tell them at an early stage that for example they will spend an evening with their grandparents, so we can do something together. Our daughter already says: “Yes, I know, you also need time for two!”. Sometimes there are tears. Nevertheless, in order to be able to leave them with a good feeling, we often consider small things for the evening or daytime planning for the time without us. This can be a simple bubble bath or we bring the favorite ice cream as dessert to our parents.

So we can start relaxed into the day or evening. A ski weekend with extensive wellness, a dinner in the favorite restaurant, a visit to the sauna, shopping together, a drink on the hip roof terrace, or a city trip. No matter what we decide in the end, during our quality time we actually only do what we both like! Afterwards we pick up our kids with so much new energy and verve and are so happy to see them. And of course we missed them already but this little break from being a parent is so valuable to us that we never want to miss it.

But this is not the secret recipe for a happy relationship between parents. By far not! The small attentions you pay etch other in everyday life, the friendly and loving interaction with each other and the mutual support! Thats how we get strength for the daily challenges in life with our kids.

PS: for all parents of babies or toddlers give it some time and it will become more and more uncomplicated and easier to put your children in the care of their grandparents or babysitters for a certain period. Be patient and believe me! 😉